Have you ever felt frustrated and desperate for relief when it comes to money?
In fact so frustrated by all the advice / books / seminars that you find yourself saying…"I just don't know what to think?"
How about this statement … “It’s only money…"
Usually you say this after you have spent too much money or lose a lot of money or make a costly mistake…in fact maybe with a laugh and you may even roll your eyes but the irony is apparent – money is anything but 'only money' when it comes to your worries.
Money is paradoxical – because as scary as it might be - money is pleasing and useful to us – we want more of it, we like to have it around us. It is critical to survival, and necessary, and yet we have this belief that understanding money is beyond us somehow…
If it's only money, why do we have so much trouble with it?
The truth is that being afraid of money is like being afraid of the air you breathe - you cannot do without it.
Money is not as mysterious or as powerful as you have been led to believe.
You must learn about it, get to know about it, and begin to use it and not it you. Here is what I have seen in my practice and why I am here talking to you about money.
Are you feeling ashamed that you do not have enough – maybe believing that there is something wrong with you and you have to hide this big secret from the rest of the world or it will humiliate you?
Well the cure for shame is to start talking about some of the secrets and the fears that are in your way.
Why don’t we talk about money?
Well for starters, most of us were never taught about money in school. Most of us didn’t have parents that openly gave us ‘guilt free’ guidance about what money is and how we can manage it effectively. Growing up there may not have been many opportunities to get in the conversation about money in an empowering way.
We all understand that money is essential to life, essential to survival and because of this it is also loaded with emotional charge.
So now you have this emotionally charged topic that NO ONE talked about.
Your emotions, having no place to escape, got pushed deep, deep down into your emotional subconscious. All that pent up, pushed down, and unexpressed emotional charge around money.
Here is the secret…!
…This is what has been driving your financial decisions… your actions and inactions!
This massive block of emotion includes all your social and emotional conditioning around money, and it includes your supportive and non-supportive values and principles.
It is the home of the #1 key to whether or not you are successful financially.
Now all you are feeling is frustration, embarrassment, or a feeling that – I should know better – I do not want to look stupid!
So you look for answers in money management books, seminars, different advisors… and then get overwhelmed with all the information…
Where do you start?!
It convinces you even more that you will never figure it out! That leads to you going out and spending more money to make you feel better! It's too late anyway? In fact some resolve to the fact that they are going to live off the government… Can you relate to any of this?
I want you to think about this and tell yourself…
I cannot handle money – yet! I don’t understand money - yet!
I am about to become a ‘fable buster’! In my own experience and hundreds of interviews with other women, here is what I have discovered… Ladies, you have to be your own Prince Charming! The days of waiting for the ‘White Knight to gallop in’ and save you are over! The reality is that Prince Charming comes in a Ford with car payments! I know this is true from my own experience!
You need to rid yourself of any old negative money messages and replace with them with new ones. It starts by uncovering the beliefs that are holding you back and heal them from the core. Is it easy? Well that depends – but I will tell you this – when you get to the core of who you really are – it just feels right. You see the universe has had plans for you since you were born. You were meant to be and have anything you wanted.
Now you may be thinking that sure Shari – “I have heard this all before, I've attended a bunch of seminars already. I have a library of books and listened to a myriad of speeches and seminars on personal development and how to succeed.” Me too! Every one of them added value, but for me, they all started to sound alike:
"Picture what you want," "Dream BIG,"
"Think positive!"
Does this sound familiar? Now don’t get me wrong they ALL inspired me to try a little harder, and I got drastic results when I applied what I was learning…. But something inside of me felt like there was still a missing piece… something that kept pulling me back into my old habits, and believe me - my results would change, but not as fast as I wanted.
Then I realized what the 'block' was.
I was working with another planner with a system she had developed that I thought was brilliant. It was a step by step plan to help you reach financial freedom with a workbook and support from a financial planner. Set goals, learn about credit/debt, risk management, financial wealth products – okay now you are good to go! Not working for you?
My 'ah-ha' moment came here…. A pattern formed in the results that my clients were getting … I had found the missing link! They were sabotaging their own plans, and worst of all with out even knowing that they were!
Three chapters were weakening the results of some many of these people's lives! In fact it was the first 3! Be grateful where you are now – where are you going – define where you are now, and set goals.
Sounded easy enough, and for many it was but the majority in my experience - not so much! Their sub-conscious mind had other plans…
The good thing is that you are not conscious of this process which takes place inside your brain. It can be very simple and you need to understand that before you decide to get more money or have financial freedom. It starts with you needing to modify your inner beliefs about the money.
You may simply need to think that you deserve it.
You need to think that the money you have is not comparative to the effort you make but it is proportional to your beliefs. When you make your personal finance plan you need to include this factor.
When you understand and proactively address the emotional issues that you have - right now - surrounding money, then and only then can you ultimately lead a more satisfying and rewarding life. ~Shari Molchan
Here's some comments from some great women after attending Shari's 2 Day Intensive Money Momentum Workshop...
“Super Cool Weekend Workshop! Interesting, Intriguing, Intense! Worth the investment in myself. Looking forward to the next 12 months. Inspiring!!”
“This weekend was a good balance of helpful information re: money and finances combined with exercises that allowed me to focus on my beliefs about money (helpful and hindering). The emotional support and encouragement by Shari and the other group participants was great. Taking the time to write out our goals and strategies was very useful. Breaking free from negative beliefs that have held me back is both a challenge and exciting for me to experience and contemplate. I look forward to the telephone coaching and further encouragement from my new friends and Shari and her team.”~D.M.
“Not only did I enter a safe, loving environment, I received more value every hour. Shari truly offered gifts of her wisdom and her heart over the 2 days, which gave me the courage to face my financial facts, create a new plan and begin the steps for a new financial goal. Shari’s vision session allowed me to recognize the strengths and gifts I have and to stretch my vision to much more than I ever imagined. Thank you so much Shari.” ~J.W.
